Beliefs grouped together make up your Self-concept, which consists of:
1 Self-Ideal: The best person you believe you can be.
2 Self-Image: The way you see yourself.
3 Self-Esteem: How you think about yourself.
The ideas behind your Self-Concept can also be made up of what others have said about you and what you choose to believe about what they have told you about yourself whether it is true or not. You have a self-concept about every area of your life, your roles, your income, your performance, and your abilities and the list goes on in each area of your life. The beliefs you have about yourself have formed you into the person you are today. Destructive criticism that comes from childhood developed our fears and leads to negative habit patterns we have as adults.
The mental image you have of yourself can either lead you to success and happiness or to failure and frustration. Every thought and emotion you experience can be building blocks for helping you overcome the despair in every area of your life.
Therefore all changes in your life, including your environment, begin with changes in your self-concept. In order for you to make changes in your self-concept it is essential that you continually monitor your thoughts and live consciously being aware of your intentions. Your thoughts feeding into your subconscious directly affects what you experience in your life and you become what you think about. You have the ability to change your self-concept through affirmation reprogramming.
Two people with the exact same education and opportunities can apply for the same job, and given that every factor except character is on an equal plane, the job applicant with a strong character based on love will get the job.
Ted has no confidence in himself. Growing up he had no role model to help shape him into a responsible adult. He's lazy, arrogant and dresses sloppy because he thinks he's going to get the job regardless of how he presents himself. He believes his credentials are enough to land him the job, and in his mind, no one else is as qualified. His intentions for the interview is to get the job so he can start paying off his student loans and buy a fancy car to go out with his friends on the weekends. Surprise, surprise, he still lives at home with mommy and daddy.
Eddie has been out of school for a year now, and lives in his own apartment. He wants the job to save up for a down payment on a house. He has the discipline to work out every day, and takes good care of himself. He is grateful for this opportunity and sees this interview as a milestone in his career. He is confident, but not cocky. He takes great pride in his time he spends helping out at the local animal shelter. His family is encouraging and supportive of his career choices, and has confidence that he will succeed at whatever he puts his mind to.
With all other factors being equal, who do you think will get the job? Ted will most likely walk away from the interview thinking there was something wrong with the company and it's their lost opportunity for not hiring the best man for the job. He will continue to go from one job interview to the next, unless he changes his focus and concentrates on developing his character.
How do you develop your character, by first recognizing what it is you tell yourself about who you are as a person. In other words, by monitoring your thoughts. Challenging your beliefs, overcoming your fears, eliminating negativity, and cultivating love into your self talk lays the foundation of a healthy self-concept.
A person's overall evaluation of his/her own worth. This encompasses both beliefs and emotions.
Self-esteem can have a direct impact on one's grades in school, relationships with peers, and success later on in life. The higher you place your self-esteem the happier you will be in life. Self esteem stems from your internal sources such as self-responsibility, self-sufficiency, and the knowledge of one's own competence and capabilities. True self-esteem is one where the person values him or herself and believes wholly in their competence and worth regardless of others and their competition or superiority complexes.
The mental picture that depicts details about you by others. Your weight, height, hair color, etc.
Items that have been learned by you through human experience and internal interpretations of judgments made by others. "What do you believe that others think about you.”? We store this information in our subconscious and it influences the way we think and remember.
Poor self-image may be the result of accumulated destructive criticism, which leads to one damaging their own view of self. Growing up in a dysfunctional household with alcoholics, drug addicts, and other neglectful parents can contribute to a person's poor self-image as an adult.
The ideal self is what a person would most like to be. A goal oriented image of what your life would look like under the best circumstances. A standard by which one aspires to and a concept of self that only exists in one's imagination.
Think about the ways you identify with yourself. I am……
Describe who you think you are. What are some of the attributes that make up your character? Are you happy, shy, naive, funny, resentful, and angry?
What type of a person are you?
What emotions do you feel regularly?
How would others describe you?
What are some words people would use to describe who you are as a person?
What are your interests and talents?
Who would you be given the most perfect of circumstances?
Describe your ideal self. Get into the details. What are you doing daily, who is in your life, what atmosphere are you in, where do you live, and how do you feel?
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your self-concept? Where can you see areas that need improvement?
What will be the first step you are willing to take towards improving your Self-Concept?